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Dealing with Grief:
Dealing with grief is something that one deals with the rest
of his or her life. My mother has been gone almost a year and a half already. I still miss her terribly. There are no cut
and dry bereavement and mourning periods. One never truly gets over the death. Somehow there is still always an emptiness,a
void, some lurking pain. Becky, a friend and family member has lost her mother several years before me and probably is about
10 years younger than me. Recently I called her to ask about all the pain I have been feeling. The tears and moods just
seem to come out of nowhere. She says that this is the way it is for her still at times. Just like rain, there is no rhyme
or reason for it. It just seems to show up for no reason at all. Also, it seems that the more you fight it, the more it reemerges
during the bigger wave of emotional tides one is feeling. To quote Becky and the wonderful Hospice counselor Helen, the only
way to truly deal with it and go on with one's life is to go "through" it. Although I can't stand the pain, I do find
great comfort in these unexpected waves as being normal. "I am not alone". I guess that must be my mantra through these times.
I also hope that this is helpful in some way to someone else who may read this. Please write and tell me what you think.
If you want me to share something on the site, let know. I believe we can all help out each other.Don't forget to talk to
someone about your feelings.You are not crazy!! If someone tells you that you are,then find someone else. It is good
to have your feelings validated.
Mary Ellen Crawford
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